Many of us live by unspoken rules, silent beliefs like “Be useful or be gone” or “Don’t feel it, fix it.” These survival strategies once kept us safe, but now they leave us burned out, anxious, and disconnected. This final blog in the series explores how recognising and unlearning these internal rules can lead to real freedom. Discover where these beliefs come from, what they cost us, and how therapy offers a path to healing and reconnection.

When control becomes the only way you feel safe, life shrinks. This blog explores why hyper-control develops, how it affects the body and mind, and how therapy, especially somatic work, can help you loosen the grip and rediscover resilience.

Many of us learned to shut down our emotions to survive, but that survival rule can leave us feeling numb, disconnected, and exhausted. This blog explores how emotional suppression develops, why it persists, and how therapy can help you safely reconnect with your feelings and reclaim a fuller, more authentic life.

Do you feel guilty when you rest, or like you need to earn your place by being helpful, productive, or self-sacrificing? You might be living by an unspoken rule that your worth depends on your usefulness. This blog explores how that belief forms, and how therapy can help you reclaim your inherent value, just as you are.

Many of us were taught, silently or directly, that feelings are dangerous or inconvenient. That keeping the peace matters more than telling the truth. But when emotional containment becomes a survival strategy, we lose access to our real selves. This blog explores how that rule forms, how it shows up in adult relationships, and how therapy can help you reclaim your emotional voice.

We’re not always told to shrink, but many of us learn it anyway. This blog explores the unspoken rule of “staying small” and how therapy can help you feel safe enough to take up space.

In many families, there's an unspoken rule: Don't talk about it. This rule can feel protective, even loving, but over time, it quietly shapes how we feel, relate, and carry pain. This post explores the origins of silence, its impact on our wellbeing, and how breaking the rule, even in small ways, can open the door to healing.